YOUR BODY ISN’T BROKEN— OUR CULTURE IS…
Let me tell you something I hear far too often from women under 35 who book my services, sit down, take a breath, and lower their voice like they’re confessing a crime:
“Rick… I’ve never had an orgasm with a partner. I think something is wrong with me.”
Ladies, let me be very clear right out of the gate—her body works just fine. Always.
What’s broken is the sexual education she absorbed by osmosis from pop culture, porn, and a generation of well-meaning but profoundly under-skilled lovers.
The Myth of the Zero-Size Sex Goddess
Let’s start with the visual lie that underpins so much of this confusion.
Popular culture—movies, Instagram, porn—has sold women a cartoon version of femininity: a size-zero waist, long legs, smooth skin, and gravity-defying DD breasts. That woman exists, of course, but she is not average. She is an outlier.
The actual average American woman today wears roughly a size 16–18. In other words, fuller, softer, rounder, and gloriously real.
And yet—where is she?
She is almost entirely absent from mainstream erotic imagery. Especially porn. Which means millions of young women are growing up without ever seeing a body like theirs depicted as desirable, let alone worshipped. That absence matters. Research in body image psychology consistently shows that representation shapes self-perception, sexual confidence, and arousal. If you never see your body reflected in desire, it’s easy to assume desire skips you.
It doesn’t.
Porn Didn’t Educate—It Indoctrinated
Now let’s talk about the elephant in the bedroom: easy, unlimited access to pornography.
Porn didn’t just entertain a generation—it trained it. And what did it train?
Sex that is:
Male-centered
Performance-based
Visually dramatic
Orgasm-focused for him
Multiple studies, including large-scale research published in Archives of Sexual Behavior, confirm what women already know in their bodies: the “orgasm gap” is real. Heterosexual men orgasm during partnered sex far more frequently than heterosexual women. The gap is not biological—it’s cultural.
Porn prioritizes positions and pacing that look exciting on camera but often reduce clitoral stimulation, emotional safety, and nervous-system relaxation—the very ingredients most women need to climax. What reads as “boring” on screen is often exactly what women’s bodies respond to best.
In Defense of Missionary (Yes, Really)
Let’s rehabilitate the most unfairly maligned position in modern sex: missionary.
Missionary offers:
Face-to-face connection
Eye contact and emotional attunement
Easy access to clitoral stimulation
A pace that allows arousal to build instead of being rushed
Neuroscience tells us that many women require relaxation, trust, and sustained stimulation to orgasm. Oxytocin—the bonding hormone—plays a major role. Missionary supports all of that. It’s not boring. It’s effective.
But when sex is learned as a performance—angles, sounds, positions, endurance—women end up acting sexy instead of feeling pleasure.
When Sex Becomes a Performance, Pleasure Leaves the Room
This is the quiet tragedy I see again and again.
Young women who are attentive, generous lovers. Women who know how to move, respond, and please—yet have never been taught how to receive. They perform sex beautifully while remaining disconnected from their own sensation. Sex for far too many women has become something she does for him. Nowhere in the equation is sex a resource of pleasure for her.
Pleasure becomes something to achieve instead of something to sink into.
And this is where everything changes.
What Happens When the Pressure Is Removed
In my practice, yoni massage has been 100% successful in producing orgasm for women who can only orgasm anlone (never with an partner)—and yes, I choose that number carefully.
Why?
Because when a woman’s body is touched without expectation, without performance, without the pressure to reciprocate or “get there already,” her nervous system finally relaxes. Blood flow increases. Sensation deepens. Her body begins to respond the way it always knew how to.
Her body doesn’t need fixing.
It needs permission.
Clinical research on somatic touch and mindful sexual practices shows increased orgasmic capacity, reduced sexual anxiety, and stronger mind-body connection. When nurtured instead of rushed, a woman’s body knows exactly what to do!
And when it does—she sings.
A New Sexual Context Changes Everything
A safe, intentional yoni massage experience doesn’t just produce orgasms. It rewires understanding.
Women leave knowing:
Their pleasure matters
Their bodies respond beautifully when honored
Sexual satisfaction is not a performance metric
Suddenly, sex is no longer about impressing someone else. It’s about inhabiting sensation. About valuing slowness. About recognizing that fulfillment is not rare at all—it’s simply been neglected.
Final Word
To the young women reading this and quietly wondering if you’re broken:
You are not.
Your body works.
Your desire is valid.
Your pleasure is there, waiting to be summoned by a patient and skilled lover… or me— your friendly neighborhood YoniMaster.
The culture just forgot to teach you how good it gets when someone takes the time to truly indulge you.
And once you know?
You’ll never settle for anything less again.
YoniMaster Rick
