WHERE HAS HEALTHY INTIMACY GONE?

People have a lot of assumptions about my clients — and most of them are wrong.

Some imagine lonely, unfortunate-looking women with cats, sitting in dimly lit apartments, yearning for affection. That image couldn’t be further from the truth.

My actual clients are powerhouses.

They’re beautiful. They’re fit. They’re CEOs of fast-growing startups, actresses who light up screens, wellness influencers with hundreds of thousands of followers, and lawyers and titans of industry who command boardrooms before lunch. These are women who could, at any moment, post a new photo and have hundreds of men vying for their attention within the hour.

So why are these same accomplished, radiant women calling me?

Because they’re listening to their bodies. They’re answering a call that’s deeper and wiser than the algorithms of modern dating.

These women aren’t weak — they’re courageous. They are simply doing what successful people do in every area of life: identifying a need, finding an expert, and investing in results. They’ve done their research — many have read the Women’s Health article that mentioned my practice or listened to the sex podcast where I spoke about mindful touch and my intimate services.

By the time we have our phone call (which I require of all new clients before our first session), they’ve already got a list of questions. They want to know about boundaries, emotional safety, energy exchange, and what they can expect to feel afterward. Only once every concern is answered with care and professionalism do they book their session.

And when couples come to me, it’s often the husband who reaches out first. They’re not looking to replace or repair something broken — they’re seeking a safe, respectful way to expand her pleasure and awaken their connection. Many of these men are handsome, accomplished, and deeply loving. What they want is guidance, not competition. They’ve read the testimonials from other couples who left feeling more connected than ever — and they want that same spark.

What gives me an edge isn’t appearance; it’s experience — years spent understanding how women’s bodies respond to mindful, nurturing touch.

What’s Missing for So Many Women Today?

We’re living in a paradoxical time: more connected than ever, yet somehow starving for genuine intimacy. For most of the women who come to me, what’s missing isn’t sex — it’s connection. The kind that quiets the mind and makes the body exhale. The kind that feels real, safe, and nourishing.

Let’s look at the main groups of women who regularly reach out to me:

The Unattached Woman Who Simply Needs to Feel Again

Some women are single and simply miss the grounding, affirming power of touch. They’re not looking for a relationship — they’re looking for reconnection with themselves. They crave an experience that feels intentional and restorative, not transactional. It’s not about indulgence; it’s about self-care on a deeper level — reclaiming ownership of their body’s joy.

Sadly, many of these women have yet to truly understand her own body’s capacity for pleasure. I’ve had clients in their fifties who have raised children to adulthood— yet never experienced an orgasm. And I’ve had numerous women express that they were “pretty sure” they’d had orgasms before. Most of the time, they hadn’t. And this is something we confirm after our first session together. Not only have these women learned something new— they have discovered potential for pleasure that they didn’t even know existed.

The Dating-App Survivor

Then there’s the woman who’s tried to find connection the conventional way. She’s been on the apps, been ghosted by guys who “aren’t looking for anything serious,” and maybe even dated a few who seemed promising — until intimacy became a scene straight out of a bad online tutorial. We can thank porn culture for that. It’s trained too many men to prioritize his pleasure or performance over presence. Real touch is about listening — not performing. When women tell me, “He was great on paper but completely disconnected in bed,” what they’re really saying is: He didn’t know how on earth to make my body feel good. And most of the time, he didn’t really try either.

Additionally, women are regularly confronted by men who don’t actually like women— they just see them as a tool for their own sexual gratification. These men are bad lovers who are unlikely to ever reach sexual enlightement, because that would require them to accept that women get so much more out of sexual gratification than men. Period. Full stop.

The Attached Woman in a “Dead Bedroom”

For married or long-term partnered women, the story is often about drift — not disaster. Life gets busy. Careers, kids, routines. Intimacy becomes something to “get around to” rather than something to look forward to. And once that spark dims, it can feel awkward to reignite. When confronted with a partner whose interest in sex has diminished to nothing— some women seek my services to keep the flame alive when their partner doesn’t care to.

When couples come to me, it’s usually not because there’s a lack of love — it’s because they’ve lost the play. They want to rediscover that curiosity, the mischief, the thrill of discovering each other again.

The Woman Who Refuses to Ignore Her Own Desire

And finally, there are women who simply refuse to keep apologizing for wanting. They’ve spent years taking care of everyone else — employees, children, spouses — and one day they wake up realizing their own needs have been on mute. For them, booking a session isn’t an act of indulgence; it’s an act of integrity and self-care.

When Intimacy Becomes Play Again

Somewhere along the way, intimacy got a PR problem.

It stopped being fun. It became something to manage, to schedule, or to dread — instead of something that keeps two people vibrant, relaxed, and laughing together. Healthy intimacy is supposed to be playful. It’s supposed to make you giggle, tease, melt, and connect. It’s the most human form of stress relief there is.

One couple rediscovered that magic in a big way following a single couples training session. After the session, he learned how to slow down, read her signals, and actually listen through touch. And something remarkable happened. He told me, “I finally feel confident in bed again — not nervous, not guessing, but actually knowing what makes her light up.” And she laughed and said, “Now every time we climb into bed, I know the fireworks aren’t a maybe — they’re a guarantee.”

What they found wasn’t just better sex — it was playfulness, mischief, and ease. They flirted more. They touched more. They couldn’t stop smiling at each other. The spark they thought had quietly gone out wasn’t gone at all — it just needed oxygen. And once they remembered how to play, the healthy intimacy in their marriage came roaring back.

So, Where Has the Healthy Intimacy Gone?

It hasn’t disappeared — it’s just been buried under busyness, screens, and expectations. The women and couples who find their way to me aren’t broken or needy. They’re pioneers of a new, conscious approach to connection — one where pleasure, communication, and mindfulness coexist beautifully.

Healthy intimacy isn’t a luxury. It’s medicine — laughter, connection, warmth, and presence all rolled into one.

And the more we bring that back into our lives, the more whole — and human — we become.

YoniMaster Rick