The Glory (and Occasional Peril) of Self-Love…

Ladies, let’s talk about self-love. And by that, I don’t mean bubble baths, herbal teas, or journaling your way to emotional enlightenment. No, no—we’re going straight for the slippery truth: masturbation. Solo play. Flicking the bean.

The Glory

First, the good news: almost everyone’s doing it. And if you’re not, statistics say you probably will (or should). According to the Kinsey Institute, about 80% of women admit to solo pleasure at some point, and more recent surveys suggest that number is climbing higher among younger generations. Translation: if you’ve got a hand and an imagination (or a USB port), you’re in excellent company.

Why is this good? Because masturbation is a built-in biology class. Self-love helps women learn the terrain of their own bodies—the subtle turns, the hot zones, the “push here for fireworks” buttons. In fact, studies have shown that women who masturbate report higher self-esteem, better body image, and stronger orgasms when they’re with a partner. It’s not just pleasure—it’s research.

And let’s not ignore the mental health perks. Orgasms, even the DIY variety, flood your system with dopamine, oxytocin, and prolactin—nature’s cocktail of “calm down, babe, you’re amazing.”

The Brainy Bit

But here’s where things get really juicy. Neuroscientists have slipped volunteers (bless their brave, naked souls) into MRI machines to watch what happens during orgasms. The results are fascinating: when women orgasm from self-stimulation, certain pleasure centers light up, sure—but when the orgasm is given by someone else? Whole different ballgame.

In fact, partnered orgasms activate more regions of the brain, especially those tied to trust, bonding, and emotional processing. It’s like the difference between watching fireworks on your phone versus standing under the exploding sky with champagne in hand. Both are pretty, but only one makes you gasp and say, “Oh my god.”

So, yes—self-love is glorious. But the data suggests that letting someone else rock your world isn’t just sexier, it’s neurologically more powerful.

The Dangers (Yes, They Exist)

Now, before you reach for your trusty rabbit, we need to talk about the dark side of modern pleasure tech. Enter: the high-frequency vibrator.

These gadgets are marvels of engineering—tiny engines whirring like jet turbines—but they come with a catch. Overuse can lead to temporary desensitization. The clitoris, wondrous as she is, wasn’t designed for 12,000 RPMs on demand. Use that weapon every day and subtle touches may start to feel like someone gently brushing your elbow instead of the sensual symphony they once were.

Also, many women become so accustomed to the quick orgasms they get from their handy tools, that they simply delegate the holding of the Hitachi to her otherwise hapless partner. I have also heard stories of women who can only orgasm during penetrative sex if her turbovibrator is applied simultaneously. The message to your partner about his sexual incompetence could hardly be any clearer. But sadly, relying on her vibrator like a sexual crutch is going to deny her the sky full of of fireworks that she and her body deserve.

This doesn’t mean vibrators are evil. Far from it! They’re lifesavers when you’re single, your partner’s on a business trip, or when you need a five-minute serotonin reset before your Zoom meeting. But moderation is key. Think of your vibrator like tequila shots—great in the right setting, dangerous if it becomes your entire personality.

The Drawer Rule

Here’s my humble advice: keep your toys in the drawer. Not the nightstand display case, not under your pillow, not charging next to your laptop like it’s part of your work-from-home setup. The drawer. Pull them out when your partner’s unavailable, when curiosity strikes, or when you simply want to play solo researcher. But don’t let them steal the spotlight.

Because here’s the truth: as glorious as self-love is, the real fireworks happen when someone else is holding the matches.

So touch yourself, love yourself, study yourself. But when the opportunity comes, let someone else handle your body— you’ll light up in ways your vibrator could only dream of.

YoniMaster Rick